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Providing encouragement and

practical teaching for couples

Self-Talk Test.pdf

Sunday Night Meeting

mutual understanding   method®

The Method
mutual understanding method®...

Mutual Understanding Method® is the result of working with couples over the past 16 years.  This common sense approach is based on several tenets:

  • Communication is not the key to your relationship - mutual understanding is.

  • No one has taught us how to do relationships.

  • Most couples do not know their personality types and what "normal" looks like for them.

  • Most people have not been taught how different men and women process life.

  • Most people have not been taught the practical implications of Ephesians 5:33.

  • Most couples don't have an in-depth discussion of expectations before they get married.

  • Most couples haven't seriously studied God's design for marriage.

The first step is to take two different online assessments.  One is a personality assessment - my assessment of choice is the Flag Page.  The other assessment is Prepare/Enrich.


The personality assessment is used in two ways:

  • As a tool to establish you and your spouse's "normal" interaction dynamic

  • As a filter through which to process other relational dynamics such as male/female differences, etc.  Your personality will either exaggerate or diminish certain dynamics

The Prepare/Enrich assessment is an in-depth assessment that allows me to better understand the complex relationship dynamics you are experiencing.

  • During the first session I normally go over the personality assessments (Flag Page) and discuss what "normal" interaction looks like for the two personalities.

  • Based on the couples' expressed needs and the results of their assessments, I may request a one-on-one meeting with each of them before we finalize a plan to move forward.

  • I put together an individualized approach for them as a couple that will lead them to a level of mutual understanding that positions them for marital success. 

  • These plans address the assumptions the Mutual Understanding Method® is based on as well as their unique needs.

  • These plans may involve meeting once a week for up to three to six months.


What People Are Saying...

Joe & Melissa

We had an awesome weekend.  Been married 13 years and the weekend gave us some great insight for things to look out for and ways that we can honor God in our marriage.

Kimberly and Faron

Great weekend.  A lot of great information and new approaches.  One area for us to work on is the emotional investment area and initiating conversations without attack.

Sally & Sterling

The seminar was awesome.  Entertaining presentation.  There is such a need for these  insights and teaching both inside and  outside the church. 

Learning Opportunities
  • Either in person or online using video-conferencing

  • Sessions are normally 50-60 minutes in length

  • Flag Page personality assessment and Prepare/Enrich couples' assessment required before first appointment date is set

  • Coaching plan will be established and agreed to as a part of the first session

  • Format is adjusted to fit client's needs

  • Seminars are typically held on weekends 

  • Friday evening until approximately 1PM on Saturday

  • Teaching sessions are normally about one hour

  • One teaching session Friday night

  • Three teaching sessions Saturday morning

Group coaching/
  • Either in person or online using video-conferencing

  • Online sessions are limited to four couples per session

  • Sessions are normally 50-60 minutes in length

  • Flag Page personality assessment and Prepare/Enrich couples' assessment taken within the past six months required before first session

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